Welcome! You are such a sensitive, caring soul. You're incredibly thoughtful and wise. You're also funny and you love life. It is a pleasure to finally meet you!
Here are some other facts I know about you:
You've already (thank god) been through those young love relationships where you didn't really know who you were and what you wanted and needed in a love relationship for it to last. Congratulations for staying the course!
You've had your heart broken (and you've probably broken a heart or two). You've gone through the challenge of being hurt and/or rejected, learning to move on and let go of someone you care for, because you can love someone but not be compatible with them for the long haul.
Maybe you've put off meeting your dating and relationship needs to pursue a career, survive/keep a roof over your head or to care for a family member or raise a child. Maybe you've held back in your love life because you are shy, introverted, disabled or 'different' in some other way.
You haven't lost hope but you know you aren't getting any younger.
Simply put, you are ready for a Lasting Lesbian Love life. Because whatever fears or obstacles stand in the way, these are not as scary as the thought of growing old alone feels.
Now that gay marriage is sweeping the land and some of your friends are getting married, perhaps you find yourself saying: why not me too? Most likely, you've kept your expectations pretty low when it comes to love and family, because up until very recently, you didn't believe 'having it all' was possible for you.
We share many similarities. In fact, many of your frustrations have been my frustrations and are what led me to create Lasting Lesbian Love (L3). I came out in my late teens and have never had much in the way of full, accepting family support for being who I am and I certainly haven't been encouraged to get in touch with my deepest desires and build a life around that, even if those desires pretty much resemble that of what most people want, i.e.: marriage and family.
So I - perhaps like you - didn't have positive role models, a clear vision or family and friend encouragement for asking myself what I most wanted. The result was that I went along and settled, even in my young adult years, accepting a relationship that wasn't truly committed and avoiding the topic of whether or not I wanted to build a family or not.
Simply put: I was denying just being who I truly was, in a fully expressed way that most straight people take for granted.
And now that I see younger LGBT's enjoying marriage and children along with seeing friends and family with children (especially now with young adult children), I realize what I may have missed.
Wow, it is hindsight but I can see how much we as a community had to settle, until very, very recently, particularly when it came to what is closest to my heart - the peace and safety and happiness of simply having a wife and a life. And it makes perfect sense because for so long (especially for those of us over 40), we were just surviving. We weren't living fully in the world.
At a minimum, it feels so heartening to know that now I can go - with or without the support of loved ones (and I have more support now than I ever have) - and create Lasting Lesbian Love with another woman who wants the same.
The bottom line is this: it's not too late.
It's not too late to give yourself more of what
you want, starting now! It's only too late if you
believe it is.
So I've created Lasting Lesbian Love to be a place you can turn to, to put all of these pieces of your life into place. Where they belong. Finally! There is nothing at all wrong with you. It's time to fully welcome you into reality. Into YOUR life. Yes!
And here's where L3 comes in: You need to find 'your kind' as you go about this incredible transformation. I don't mean any lesbian. I mean lesbians (and allies of whatever stripe) who share similar values to you. We need to find each other and support each other in living the full lives we've denied ourselves (and been denied) for so long.
That's why it is so, so important that as you turn over this new leaf that you set yourself up to succeed. That means you must avoid anyone - including other lesbians - who criticize your desires. That's right. You may very well find as you become more empowered to release old baggage and fly freer that some of your LGBT friends will resent you. Expect it and prepare to deal with it.
Lasting Lesbian Love is that refreshing support community you will become a vibrant participant in as you grow into your more authentic you and as you build and develop your new, deeply ecstatic life with another woman!
I can't wait to know you and I so look forward to supporting you in making your life sing!
As a bright, heart-centered woman, you either feel something isn't quite right but you aren't sure what that is or you know you want to make a change. However, for any number of reasons, you haven't yet done so.
The great news is that you are tired of waiting and you are ready to do whatever it takes to get unstuck and move forward.
It doesn't really matter what your specific quest is. You are not alone. Best yet, there is great power in doing something different. That something different is registering for Lasting Lesbian Love's 3 Month Challenge.
Lasting Lesbian Love's 3 Month Challenge is a life transforming experience that will help you make the vital shifts in your life you need to make to take your love life to the next level, however you define it.
Click here to meet with Barb free, one-on-one and privately to explore this life enhancing program.
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