As an intelligent, emotionally conscious lesbian woman who desires an amazing 'Lasting Lesbian Love' life, you have set the bar high. And that's - as they say - 'a good thing'!
You see, I understand. Because I am just like you. I've been there. I've been in lesbian love relationships in the past that didn't last but gave me the gifts of clarifying who I am and what I want my next greatest relationship to be about.
But, here's the thing: Love CAN feel like a real traffic jam and it's easy to get lost, unless you travel using my Lasting Lesbian Love Map (L3 Map). For example, one really important 'key to love' I will divulge right here and now is avoiding dead ends and highway crashes. I know, easier said than done, right? That's why I've created L3 Map.
As a gay or lesbian woman, no doubt you've found you must carve your own, unique journey, because many of the 'straight' roads don't work for your love life.
AND, here's the greatest news I have to share: You don't have to travel this journey alone. How might it feel to have a supportive, caring guide holding space for you to take your journey the way you most want to experience it? You see, I've been walking love's journey with lesbian women from all over the world for almost 14 years now. And, I've been walking Lasting Lesbian Love personally now for almost 35 years. So, I am, as they say, well traveled in the world of Lasting Lesbian Love.
Now, here's a real set of roads with potholes you will want to stay far away from: Because you are still becoming your most authentic, happy self, you may be vulnerable to one or more of the following old messages or 'sirens' calling out seductively to you: incestuousness, scarcity thinking, desperation, blame and shame, competitiveness and even sympathy and paternalism from well meaning allies and lesbian confidants.
Sadly, these 'old' issues stick to you, obscuring and complicating your quests to both simply find and nurture a relationship that 'fits' us AND surround yourself in love with the friends and family who do support, celebrate and deeply respect you and your partner/your chosen relationship.
For example, time and time again I've experienced it and seen it happen to my clients: you totally open up and confide in a friend or family member. And, it made things worse! You see, when it comes to your best interests, friends and family try, but they are too close to you and your situation to be able to give you the support you need to decide how you want to live your life. While they try, they so often don't know how not to react - OR WORSE YET - they criticize, control or attempt to 'fix' us.
Our straight family members and friends often don't understand. Neither do our gay guy friends. And, it's especially difficult finding a lesbian friend who is secure and happy enough in herself and her own life and circumstances as well as skilled enough in her communications to be a friend without bias, conditions or agendas. It's a tall rather unrealistic expectation if you ask me.
So, why not try a different path? From my heart to yours, I want you to consider forming a tight relationship with an unbiased, skilled love guide like myself to help you with this most important area of YOUR life. After all, if you needed brain or heart surgery, you wouldn't ask your friends to do it, would you? Sadly, in our culture, we tend to give physical health issues precedence often to the exclusion of emotional health.
You can have the flattest stomach on the beach
but that won't change an unhappy marriage
Almost daily you must make decisions about matters of the heart that DO make the difference between a great life and an overly stressed or unhappy one. Whether those decisions are - who to date, where to go to find compatible women, how to date when you are a lesbian, how to solve the inevitable relationship concerns that arise when you are in a relationship, when to know if you are ready to marry or if you should marry as well as who to marry - YOUR Lasting Lesbian Love journey is unique to you, multi-faceted and as they say, 'a marathon not a sprint'.
Like I said I get it and I get you. I'm a 'hopeless romantic' lesbian who was 'outed' rather unceremoniously when I was 17 in 1978. Talk about character building. But wait...there's more!!! I also know what it's like to be a homeless LGBT youth. But I persevered and on my own (with the help of some very caring others) kept on my purposeful journey of creating my legacy: to leave the world a better place than I found it.
I overcame the pressures of choosing the career everyone else thought I should choose and I decided to follow my heart. Since then, I've never looked back and I've been counseling, coaching and advising lesbians about their lives and their love lives for over 25 years now.
I deeply love what I do and plan to do it forever.
How's that for lasting commitment?
How many people can even say that today about their work?
HERE'S YOUR CALL TO TAKE ACTION, STARTING RIGHT NOW: Now, because you are bright and you have already come a long way in your courageous, authentic life, you realize having a love expert you know you can turn to - whose support you trust implicitly, who you can turn to PRIVATELY to discuss your most intimate concerns - is a priority.
All that's left for you to do now is take your first step. Make it easy but take it and put your heart INTO it. Below are a few simple yet powerful ways to help you begin.
I would suggest you choose one of the following, whichever seems most interesting to you:
Check out my blog, so you can learn more about L3, including what I and other lesbians are talking about. Listen to an episode of my radio show Lesbian Love Talk. Sample a coaching session with me. Download your complimentary, three part audio series "Hottest Secrets to Lasting Lesbian Love". Learn about my recent lesbian tele-summit.
Give yourself a daily dose of Lasting Lesbian Love and I guarantee you, you will easily and naturally get on the path to creating a love life with another woman you are immensely satisfied with, AND, without huge amounts of time or work! ;-)
Much Lasting Lesbian Love to you,
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