Because you want a great life
and an amazing wife!
- Barb Elgin 2/12/15
Welcome! Wow...You are such a sensitive, caring soul. You're incredibly thoughtful and wise. You're also funny and you love life. It is a pleasure to finally meet you!
Here are some other tidbits I know about you:
You've already (thank god) been through those young love relationships where you didn't really know who you were and what you wanted and needed in a love relationship for it to last. In fact those early relationships have matured you into the woman who is ready for Lasting Lesbian Love (L3) now. Congratulations for staying the course!
Perhaps you've had your heart broken (and you've probably broken a heart or two). You've gone through the challenges of grieving a lost love or feeling the sting of rejection, and you've been through the process of knowing when it is time to move on and let go of someone you care for, because you can love someone but not be compatible with them for the long haul.
Maybe you've put off dating to pursue a career, build your own nest egg, take better care of yourself or to care for a family member or raise a family. Or, perhaps you've held back in your love life because you are shy, introverted, physically or mentally challenged or 'different' in some other way. Perhaps you can't figure out why dating isn't working for you.
Perhaps you've been to many lesbian events, but you can't seem to make that special 'love' connection (yet). Something just seems to be missing at the events you attend.
Thankfully you haven't lost hope but you also know you aren't getting any younger. You could stay single and continue creating a pretty good life. But...
Simply put, you are ready for a new - and different - adventure. Something in your gut you know you want to experience before you leave this planet: an incredible life with YOUR Lasting Lesbian Love wife.
Now that gay marriage is sweeping the land and some of your friends are getting married, perhaps you find yourself saying: why not me too? More than likely, you've kept your expectations pretty low when it comes to love and family, because up until very recently, you didn't believe 'having it all' was possible for you.
Or perhaps you have sincerely been trying to find the type of woman you could build an L3 life with, but you can't seem to find other lesbians and women-who-love-women who seem to value L3 like you do.
I understand. I've been there. I am happily single but envision true L3. I'm dating and currently applying all I've learned in two previous, long term loves to my L3 life. I too am busy building an incredible career and often don't have time to peruse dating sites or attend events and, when I do, I often come away empty. I have discovered there are so many types of single lesbians. And not all - surprise - envision L3 like I do.
I too wonder where the single, truly available, emotionally and mentally ready lesbians are who are still hopeful they can find and grow L3 with another woman.
So, instead of just wishing and wondering. I've set out to bring us together. Because these are just some of the frustrations I've had and you've had that led me to create Lasting Lesbian Love (L3). I came out in my late teens and have never had much in the way of full, accepting family support for being who I am and I certainly haven't been encouraged to get in touch with my deepest desires and build a life around that, even if those desires pretty much resemble that of what most people want, i.e.: marriage and family.
So I - perhaps like you - didn't have positive role models, a clear vision or family and friend encouragement for asking myself what I most wanted. The result was that I went along and settled, even in my young adult years, going it alone (because at the time there was no support for gay women seeking life partners). The result was that I ended up being in relationships that were great learning experiences yes, but which didn't lasat because we had the usual couples challenges AND the challenges of being in a relationship that didn't have support.
Build a family in this environment? Unfortunately in both of these relationships, I put my needs second. I learned never to do that again! But perhaps all worked out best, because bringing children into those relationships was probably not the best.
Simply put: I was denying just being who I truly was, in the fully expressed, amply supported way that most straight people take for granted. Well, I know I am idealizing straight women here, as I know many who suffer challenges too feeling unable to live fully for their own reasons, often related to being a woman in our world.
But now that I see younger LGBT's enjoying marriage and children along with seeing friends and family with children (especially now with young adult children), I realize what I may have missed.
Wow, it is hindsight but I can see how much we as a community had to settle, until very, very recently, particularly when it comes to what is closest to our hearts - the peace. safety and happiness of simply having a life and a wife. And it makes perfect sense because for so long (especially for those of us over 40), we were just surviving. We weren't living fully in the world.
At a minimum, it feels so heartening to know that now I can go - with or without the support of loved ones (and I have more support now than I ever have) - and create Lasting Lesbian Love with another woman who wants the same.
The bottom line is this: it's not too late.
It's not too late to give yourself more of what
you want, starting now! It's only too late if you
believe it is.
So I've created Lasting Lesbian Love to be a place you can turn to, to FINALLY put all of these pieces of your life into the game and into place. Where they belong. Finally! There is nothing at all wrong with you. It's time to fully welcome you into reality. Into YOUR life. Yes!
And here's where L3 comes in: You need to find (and keep around you) 'your kind' as you go about
'Finding your L3 wife' and 'Growing your L3 life'.
By this I mean lesbians (and allies of whatever stripe) who share similar values to you. We need to find each other and support each other in living the full lives we've denied ourselves (and been denied) for so long.
Lasting Lesbian Love is that refreshing place and community that is ready to welcome you NOW to support you in continuing to become your most authentic you in the world as you find, build and devote yourself to your new and exciting AND deeply ecstatic life with another woman!
Ready to get it going now? I'm ready to talk to you! I so look forward to supporting you in making your life sing!
Our founder, Barb Elgin. is a natural connector! She's a lesbian herself
(she came out in 1978) and she has served the LGBT community now for over 25 years.
As part of her commitment to the health and happiness of lesbians,
Barb has spent thousands of hours live, face-to-face and online,
coaching lesbians to create the love lives they are capable of having.
In addition, Barb has traveled all over the U.S. and North America,
speaking to our community, reaching out to us and meeting incredible
LGBT folks and allies like yourself at a variety of events such as gay prides,
singles events, lesbian cruises, couples workshops, gay chamber events,
gay wedding expos, gay-affirmative churches and more.
SIMPLY PUT: Barb Elgin is one of the most down-to-earth and most
well-connected lesbians you will ever meet! Whether you are talking
LGBTIQ social, corporate, travel, entertainment, artistic, business, sports
or activist organizations, Barb knows many of the leaders and 'movers and
shakers' in these organizations and industries.
What does this mean for you? In addition to Barb's extensive expertise
in guiding singles and couples in the arts of dating, communication and
relationships, her 'Lasting Lesbian Love' network is constantly growing and
it is already full of quality connections.
Barb is a magnet, meaning she constantly building relationships
with beautiful (on the inside and out) and worldly successful single
and coupled women-who-love women!
Click here to meet with Barb for a private, one-on-one consult to begin
dating to meet YOUR Lasting Lesbian Love!
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